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Lessons - 1st try with the Sticky Stuff

Tuesday, October 13, 2009 8:17 PM  |  by Babe with a Mane

Nightmares are scary. Sometimes, my nightmares aren't at night, but instead they happen when a recollection of a moment in time know, a memory that you wish was buried deep never to resurface again?

So, yesterday - I had one of these "nightmares"...I was remembering my first attempt at attaching my hair. It was quite an emotional day to begin with. After all, I had MADE my own hair piece and was waiting on my first order from Hair Direct. Not only that, but this was the big day I was shaving off my natural hair to make room for the new hair! That alone made this a nightmare day, but nothing had prepared me for the nightmare of glue.

Oh sure, I had read a zillion posts and messages on websites everywhere trying to figure out how to do this myself, so I thought I had a pretty good idea of what to do. Nonetheless, when the actual time of attachment was in front of me, all of those tips flew from my mind and I was all alone with my crying hairdresser who was begging me not to shave my hair the whole time!

So, here I was, the top part of my head bald, holding a bottle of UltraHold glue in my hand. The moment of truth. I remembered reading about how the glue should be applied in VERY thin coats and should be allowed to DRY before attaching hair. Humph...what can THEY know. It didn't make any sense to me to let a glue dry BEFORE trying to stick something in it. So, little miss know it all and uncoachable...did it my own way.

I glopped the first coat on and it strung everywhere like little sticky spiderwebs trailing from the bottle to my head. Ugh. I waited a minute or two (it should be dry enough by now right?) and applied another thick, gooey layer. There, that should do it.

Now, the moment of truth as I plopped my newly made hair down over the oozing gooey mess on my head. Uh oh. This can't be good. The glue was seeping through the lace and into the hair. The hair was sliding all over my newly shaven scalp and I couldn't keep it in one place. Every time I touched the hair, it just soaked up more glue. What a DISASTER!

I did try to live with this for a day (as I recall) and then the next day, I tried it again. Of course, it took me 9 hours!!! This time, I decided that little Miss know it all had better eat a bit of humble pie and try to follow instructions!

So, I applied a VERY thin layer of the glue to my head and waited about 20 minutes. Next I applied a 2nd coat. After the 2nd coat had dried, I decided to give it another shot. Miracle of miracles, the glue was MUCH stickier after it was dry and the lace just laid down into the glue and virtually disappeared!

So, this was what everyone was talking about..."invisible lace"! Wow, what a difference following those tips made for me! Now of course, you all know my entire routine is down to 30 minutes and that includes a fresh shave and a shower!

I highly recommend that as a new wearer, you "team up" with someone who has worn hair for a long time and drive them crazy with questions! Don't worry, those of us who have worn hair for a long time understand that this is a "pay it forward" situation. We had people who helped us and now it's our turn to give back! Heck, I've even been known to hook up my webcam and help new wearers with their first attachments step by step.

Hopefully you won't have to suffer through the mistakes Little Miss Know It All did before she ate a big piece of "humble pie"!

Let me know if I can help!


About Babe with a Mane

My natural hair has not been seen for over 20 years. It has hidden under wigs and weaves, under toppik, colored sprays, couvre and dermatch. My growing hair is a significant burden. It takes too much time to try to fix it up to be presentable, too much money to try to fix, too much energy to worry about and conceal. Every day, I used to wish for great hair. Every day I was ashamed of my thin hair. Every day, I woke up feeling confident, feminine and sexy inside. Then, I looked in the mirror at my natural hair and those positive thoughts were robbed from me. My natural hair forced me to feel unattractive, timid and insecure. I know who I am inside and I wanted to project that image to everyone else. To do that, my hair had to change. Women who are bald or have very thin hair, are not considered "socially acceptable" in the general public's eye. I wanted to be considered socially acceptable, my natural hair wouldn't let me. My dream hair allows me to lead a normal life. I wake up to my guy nuzzling my neck while my soft hair is brushed aside. I jump in the shower to wash my hair. I look in the mirror to see a confident and sexy woman, looking back at me. I don't waste hours trying to disguise myself to fit in. I blow dry and curl my hair and start my day with a spring in my step. I don't catch others staring at my thin hair while trying to have a conversation with me. The same confident, self assurance that I feel inside is now projected on the outside. There are no further internal battles between true persona and an incongruous outward appearance. I am finally, after a lifetime of dreaming, able to project an image that reflects the confident, sexy, intelligent, feminine woman I truly am.


Ruby said:

Babe, I am that new wearer so to speak.  I am going to have my last system put on at the "club" in a few days.  I have already purchased and received my first two pieces from hairdirect.  The Club has always applied them with just the supertape in front and liquid adhesive in the back and sides.  I like the idea of trying the tape back a little in the front and the liquid at the hairline.  Have you ever explained step by step how you accomplish this?  I know I can master this but, I would sure like your advise first so I don't end up crying on the floor. My system is just on the crown.  Can I use this method? I will appreciate any help you can give me.  Thanks, Ruby

Pandorah said:

Babe, that was the wrong thing to say! I am so paranoid about the attachment and shaving portion.. this will be me next week. Though I only have tape coming, I have no glue - I wonder if this will still be OK

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