My answers to the first three steps

Wednesday, May 16, 2007 8:41 PM

Last week I recommended three steps to help you sort thru the unbelievable amount of information on Hairdirect and get you closer to choosing the right hair for you! Have you finished those steps yet?

No? Why aren't you done yet? 

This is no time to procrastinate, every day in the mirror you wish you had the right hair.  You deserve it! 

Maybe you are just unsure of how to complete the steps...I know it sure was hard for me to go through these steps.  Would it help if I told you what my answers were to the first three steps I recommended last week?  

My answers are going to be very personal and very direct.  Please realize that I am sharing my thoughts, yours may turn out entirely different...I have a feeling that most of us think the very same things - but perhaps we aren't all willing to type out those thoughts!

Step 1: Take a few minutes to write down what your ideal "dream hair" looks like!

• Brunette with highlights
• Long (20") and shiny
• Straight but with the ability to be curled if desired
• No lumps or bumps
• No detectability at hairline
• Natural looking part anywhere I choose

Step 2: Write down what it is you need your hair to do and how you want it to perform while it's happening!

• Watching or participating in sports events - hair needs to blow and shine in the wind like real hair - no clumpy dry bunches that don't move
• Swimming and snorkeling in salt/chlorine water - hair needs to move in the water like real hair and not be clumped in a matted mess when I try to exit the water gracefully
• Boating and convertible rides - hair needs to blow around me naturally without having to wear a hat to conceal the hairline or attachment methods
• "Knockin' boots" - "Boogie between the sheets" - "Doing the dirty deed" - "Horizontal Mambo" (Do you realize how many slang terms there are for sex???????) -- hair needs to be silky to the touch, needs to move like real hair and swing around when I do, has to stay soft and be able to spread out fanlike around me without clumping up, needs to smell good, has to be undectable to his touch, must remain attached during even the most passionate "caveman" encounters, has to stand up to a hearty yank every once in a while, running his fingers through my hair needs to happen without detection and with no tangles, needs to be adaptable to different locations, i.e. the shower....if we are in a shower together, my hair needs to be and act real no matter whether it's wet or dry.

Step 3: Answer these two simple questions:

• How do you think about your natural hair as it is now?  How does it effect the way you feel every day?

My natural hair has not been seen for 20 years.  It has hidden under wigs and weaves, under toppik, colored sprays, couvre and dermatch.  My growing hair is a significant burden.  It takes too much time to try to fix it up to be presentable, too much money to try to fix, too much energy to worry about and conceal.

Every day, I wish for great hair.  Every day I am ashamed of my thin hair.  Every day, I wake up feeling confident, feminine and sexy inside.  Then, I look in the mirror at my natural hair and those positive thoughts are robbed from me.  My natural hair forces me to feel unattractive, timid and insecure.  I know who I am inside and I want to project that image to everyone else.  To do that, my hair has to change.  Women who are bald or have very thin hair, are not socially acceptable in the general public's eye.  I want to be considered socially acceptable, my natural hair won't let me.

• What do you think about your "dream hair" as you want it to be?  How will it effect the way you feel every day?

My dream hair will allow me to lead a normal life.  I will wake up to my guy nuzzling my neck while my soft hair is brushed aside.  I will jump in the shower to wash my hair.  I will look in the mirror to see a confident and sexy woman, looking back at me.  I won't waste hours trying to disguise myself to fit in.  I will blow dry and curl my hair and go to work with a spring in my step.  I won't catch others staring at my thin hair while trying to have a conversation with me.  The same confident, self assurance that I feel inside will be projected on the outside.  There will be no further internal battles between true persona and an incongruous outward appearance.  I will finally, after a lifetime of dreaming, be able to project an image that reflects the confident, sexy, intelligent, feminine woman I truly am.

Hopefully my answers have inspired you to take action.  The road to choosing what type of hair to order and wear may seem a little long, but doing the work before you order will increase your chance of success with a unit that is exactly what you want! 

As a side note, I wonder how many of us think the same way about our hair?  Feel free to leave a comment here and I look forward to reading your stories!

Have a great hair day,

Babe