Babe’s Mane Blog

Teaching women how to wear hair – one (strand, mane, head…) at a time.

Babe's blog is no longer active. Here you'll find an archive of posts from March 2007 thru December 2009. See the Hair Direct Official Blog for more recent posts.

Random Thoughts - The Blog's Beginning

Thursday, April 12, 2007 3:14 PM  |  by Babe with a Mane

Wow!  Welcome to the very first posting of Babe’s “Mane” Blog!

 

(Ummm…well…hmmmmm, what should I type next that will be informative, inspirational, entertaining and relevant…YIKES!!!  What in the world have I gotten myself into??  Ok deep breaths, relax, this is supposed to be easy.  Just start typing…)

 

The first question you are probably asking is, “Why?”  Of course, that leads to the next “why?” and the next…and the next…believe me, the list never ends!

 

“Why a separate blog for women?”

 

“Why Babe?”

 

“Why now?

 

Although it’s highly unlikely that I can answer all of the why’s and how’s, I’d like to start by writing a bit about the three “Why’s” above.  Hopefully, that will explain how in the world we ended up here! 

 

Most of you reading this blog do not need to be formally introduced to “Babe”.  I’ve been posting on Hair Direct’s website for many months. One of the first things I noticed on the message board was that there were very few postings from women about their hairloss and although I was learning a lot from the terrific guys that had posted, I craved more specific information from women just like me!  Where were the postings from women who wear hair?  Statistics say that 1 out of every 3 women in the United States suffer from some sort of hairloss.  That's HUGE!  So where are these women??  After mulling this over for several days while I scoured the message boards, I realized during an “AHA moment" that there must be thousands of women out there in cyberspace just like me who were waiting for other women to be the first.  Well, in the State of Delaware, there’s this little saying they adopted as their slogan….

 

“IT’S GOOD TO BE FIRST!”

 

Of course I realize I’m far from the first woman to wear hair and I’m definitely not the first woman to post a message about it, but I decided right then and there that I would be the first to start a message thread on Hair Direct where women could post their stories, anecdotes, advice and even sob stories so that other women could easily find us and join in!  My first thread was Women - stories and advice during the journey!  The response to this thread and my initial stories was overwhelming!  I was right!!!  There were women just like us from all over the world reading this website and we all felt like we were alone!  The more posts I created, the braver we all became.  I took many of you on my journey from day one as a client of Hair Direct and I even took you on detours over some very bumpy roads of my past hair experiences! 

 

I continued to educate myself on the Hair Direct website, devouring every tidbit of information I could find.  I went through every thought process and questioned everything.  (It can’t be this easy…I don’t believe it…but these people seem so sincere…how can this work…what if I order it wrong…are the pictures fake…what if it doesn’t fit…)  Finally, I jumped.  After all, the home office wasn’t very far away, why not drive up?

 

Ladies, I don’t mind telling you that I was scared.  Actually, I was terrified.  I remember pulling into the parking area and unwrapping my sweaty hands from the steering wheel.  As I climbed the steps to the HD offices, I saw faces peeking out from the windows.  I could almost hear the conversations…

 

“She’s here!”

“Is that her?” 

“She’s Babe on the message board.”

“Her hair looks good!”

“She’s soooo young!!!” 

(Ok, well maybe that one is a stretch, but a girl can hope for that reaction, can’t she?)

 

Seems like the entire company met me that day!  I spoke with Bill, Sr., Bill, Jr. and Brandon at length.  The ideas were flying back and forth and it was so nice to hear that the vision for Hair Direct was exactly as I had hoped.  At some point during the next several months, the idea of me writing a ladies blog on the website was proposed by Hair Direct.  I accepted. In my opinion, it’s a huge responsibility and an honor.  I’m hoping that it will help other women discover us quickly so that their journey isn’t as arduous as ours.

 

 

This is the beginning.  Come along on our journey.  It’s going to be great fun!

About Babe with a Mane

My natural hair has not been seen for over 20 years. It has hidden under wigs and weaves, under toppik, colored sprays, couvre and dermatch. My growing hair is a significant burden. It takes too much time to try to fix it up to be presentable, too much money to try to fix, too much energy to worry about and conceal. Every day, I used to wish for great hair. Every day I was ashamed of my thin hair. Every day, I woke up feeling confident, feminine and sexy inside. Then, I looked in the mirror at my natural hair and those positive thoughts were robbed from me. My natural hair forced me to feel unattractive, timid and insecure. I know who I am inside and I wanted to project that image to everyone else. To do that, my hair had to change. Women who are bald or have very thin hair, are not considered "socially acceptable" in the general public's eye. I wanted to be considered socially acceptable, my natural hair wouldn't let me. My dream hair allows me to lead a normal life. I wake up to my guy nuzzling my neck while my soft hair is brushed aside. I jump in the shower to wash my hair. I look in the mirror to see a confident and sexy woman, looking back at me. I don't waste hours trying to disguise myself to fit in. I blow dry and curl my hair and start my day with a spring in my step. I don't catch others staring at my thin hair while trying to have a conversation with me. The same confident, self assurance that I feel inside is now projected on the outside. There are no further internal battles between true persona and an incongruous outward appearance. I am finally, after a lifetime of dreaming, able to project an image that reflects the confident, sexy, intelligent, feminine woman I truly am.

Comments

thinningbelle said: Congratulations, Babe & HD! You are so right that there are women out there who have hair loss and need a forum to ask questions, seek advice, and learn about options. I'm 40 and have always had thin, fine hair, but over the last 2 years it has gotten much thinner and much more difficult to work with. I just today got the results of a scalp biopsy--although not conclusive, my hair loss seems to stem from inflammation (I have an autoimmune condition) and probably female pattern baldness in the early stages.
Even before getting these results, I had pretty much decided to shave the pitiful hair I do have and get some sort of system so that I can for once in my life have "good hair" while I'm still young enough to enjoy it. I mean, I could hang onto what I have and go through the Rogaine and all the other hair loss products and techniques out there to try to make what I have last as long as possible, but why? Why suffer through ten years of trying to make crappy hair look decent and end up with a hair system in the long run anyway if I can make the jump now and look even better?
So, my next decision is what type of system and how does it all work? I've read many of the posts, but I haven't seen one that sort of takes you through the process step-by-step from beginning to end:
1. How do you choose the system--I know I want remy human hair, but what kind of base? I want the kind that looks the most like natural scalp, can be parted anywhere, can be put up in a pony tail or barrette (is that possible?), can be left on long-term (2-3 weeks), and can be sweated in/worked out in, can go swimming, etc.
2. How do you attach it, step-by-step
3. When it's time to remove it, how do you do that step-by-step
4. After removal, what do you do to your scalp to "maintain" it and what do you do to the system to "maintain" it?
5. How long does the system last--when do you replace it completely?

Any advice or instruction would be wonderful and much appreciated!
Thanks,
thinningbelle
bhair said: Babe,

This is so great. I'm looking forward to all the wonderful sharing of information and tools that you and others are working. It sounds like you're having a wonderful time at HD.

I can't believe that it has taken me more than 25 years to find something like this, but there it is.

This is such a vital tool for all of us. Like B&B who posts regularily to the message board, I have Alopecia Universalis (AU). So I need to wear the full cap, and I do the whole faux eyelashes and eyebrows. I'm also an RN who works in a Corporate Healthcare Leadership role and my appearance is important to my self-esteem and allows me to be successful in my professional life as well as my personal life. I am looking forward to feeling secure without having to check and double check several times a day.
In my personal life, I am blessed with a honey who is incredibly supportive and knows about my condition (he met me that way), but has never seen me au naturale in terms of my head. He surely is tired of my "does my hair look ok?" and "check the back" and "did the wind make it look weird?" in addition to all my anxiety every time we get on a rollercoaster or go out in the wind, but he is a trooper.
We've danced for a number of years. We used to compete and the hair was always a source of concern for me.

I feel so fortunate that you, Hairlady and HD are in the process of providing that extra something that the women here need and that I seem to have discovered HD at just the right time.
Camila said: I am so glad that after all my young and adult life worring about hair lost, somebody is here to share experiences and comments about this sad and difficult situation.

I have been wearing a system for the last 10 years. The one I am using now from HD is just beautiful and make me feel confident and pretty.!!!
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